Shame and guilt are emotions that can significantly shape the dynamics of a relationship. In an article feature on The Good Men Project, Dr. Dana McNeil, a licensed marriage and family therapist, Gottman-trained specialist, and The Relationship Place founder sheds light on how these emotions differ and why addressing them is essential for healthy partnerships.
According to Dr. McNeil,
“Guilt is feeling bad about something you did, while shame is feeling bad about who you are,”
She highlights how guilt, when approached constructively, can lead to positive actions like apologizing and making amends. On the other hand, shame often undermines self-esteem, making individuals less likely to be vulnerable and open with their partners.
By fostering open communication and seeking self-awareness, couples can address these emotions together.
As Dr. McNeil notes,
“When we feel shame, we are less likely to be vulnerable and open with our partners.”
Learning to distinguish and navigate these feelings is a vital step toward creating stronger, more connected relationships.
Originally from KyleBenson.net, this piece is testament to the importance of emotional understanding in sustaining meaningful connections.