In a world where digital messages come and go, the act of writing a love letter remains a deeply meaningful way to express emotions. Crafting a heartfelt message allows you to convey deep emotions, offering your partner a tangible reminder of your love.
Mind Body Green discussed this further in an article, ‘Why You Should Write Your Partner a Love Letter’ featuring expert advice from our founder, Dr. Dana McNeil, PsyD, LMFT. According to her, a love letter is more than just words on a page—it’s a powerful emotional connection.
Love Letters is a “Verbal Embrace”
“A love letter is a verbal embrace,” says Dr. McNeil. “The sender is using words to create a soft, tender, loving connection with the object of their desires.” Unlike fleeting text messages, a handwritten letter can be cherished, reread, and even kept as a treasured keepsake.
The Science Behind Handwritten Letters
Beyond the emotional impact, there’s also a scientific reason why handwritten love letters feel more meaningful. “Science tells us that writing something by hand involves the motor cortex and visual planning parts of our brain,” explains Dr. McNeil. This process engages language networks, making the words we write feel more intentional and connected to the person receiving them.
Additionally, writing by hand can positively affect the sender as well. Dr. McNeil notes that crafting a letter filled with love and appreciation can create a dopamine boost, enhancing feelings of happiness and connection.
The Importance of Feeling Seen and Valued
One of the most impactful aspects of a love letter is its ability to make a person feel truly seen. Rather than generic statements, specificity is key. “By telling the person we love that we notice who they are and why they mean so much to us, we are offering them a gift of being seen and valued,” says Dr. McNeil. Including detailed examples—like a special moment you shared or a quality you admire—can make the letter even more powerful.
A Lasting Expression of Love
As Dr. McNeil emphasizes, love letters aren’t just for the recipient—they also provide the sender with an opportunity to slow down, reflect, and connect with their deepest emotions.
With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, there’s no better time to embrace the timeless tradition of love letters. While gifts and grand gestures have their place, nothing speaks to the heart quite like a handwritten note filled with genuine emotions. Consider swapping a store-bought card for something truly personal—a love letter crafted with intention.